One person’s craziness is another person’s reality.”
― Tim Burton
I was talking to my Dad after my last posting and he asked me how my tooth was doing. I gave him the update and told him about various people’s reactions to my toothlessness. His response was loving, affirming and perspective shifting.
“Well I’ve seen you with no teeth and I thought you were cute!”
Of course he was referring to my childhood, but it got me thinking. At what age does our humanity become a detriment rather than endearing? How come when “life happens” to a child or young adult, trial and error learning is allowable and expected but after a certain age the expectation that we should “know” or “know better” seems firmly entrenched.
I can look at my own life and see countless examples of “adult-onset-ignorance” and “she should ‘a known better” moments. Moments where my actions were far less than squeaky clean and many of which were shame and guilt inducing, and that’s just looking back a week or so!
Our humanity exists until we leave the body behind. The human experience is the vehicle to our divinity making all that we go through relevant and enlightening, even our ignorant, ugly and ridiculous moments! In learning to accept our own human moments, we will judge others less.
I am currently deep into my 4th decade on the planet and I’m still leaning through experience and sometimes not learning the first time! Just like my Dad’s perspective on my toothless appearance, I can choose the perspective from which to view any experience.
So what’s more empowering? Viewing life from the perspective of judgment and “should’a known better”?, or through the gracious, allowing lens of,” Oh—another opportunity to learn here on earth!”.
As for my current, toothless situation, I choose to think I’m cute, too! Thanks Dad!
Joyfully and with warmest aloha,